If you have ever felt like you were just “an option” you know how amazing it feels to become someone’s priority. It is the difference between feeling liked and being loved. When you are afraid of being without someone, sometimes it’s easier to settle for being an option instead of waiting to become a priority. You feel like if you fight hard enough you’ll outlast or beat out the other “options”. More often than not this isn’t the case, and why would you want it to be? If someone is truly in love with you, they will commit and be faithful to you. They won’t even consider other options. It’s only when someone isn’t ready to commit that they consider other options.
Why do people engage in relationships with people unwilling or not ready to commit? While there are “plenty of fish in the sea” dating is often intimidating. People work longer hours these days, and social networking kills any sense of mystery revealing too much and ruining chances of relationship development. It’s hard for many people to make time for dating, let alone find someone they are compatible with. While the “search” often takes work, wasting your time with someone who isn’t ready to commit, or not capable of it, is pointless and tragic. When you consider that we only have one life, and that life passes by in the blink of an eye, why would you want to spend it with someone who doesn’t value you enough to be committed to you?
I was once caught in the trap of committing to someone who was unwilling to make me a priority. After so many years I learned from him how to make people options, never making any man a priority. It wasn’t until I found love that I was able to learn to commit again, and to make someone a priority. Once upon a time I fought hard for commitment only to fail. Now I wake up each morning as a priority. It takes time to find the one, but it’s always worth the wait.
I know that we’re supposed to be kind to our neighbors, but some neighbors make it difficult. I never had a problem with neighbors until moving into my most recent apartment. The walls and floors of the apartment are very thin. Luckily, we live on the top floor so it’s not a major issue for us. Unfortunately, the people below us are very sensitive to the noise. If we walk on our floor with shoes, watch TV, or listen to music at a normal volume they angrily knock on the ceiling with a broom. We’re very sensitive to what the noise must be like for them, so we comply by keeping the volume very low, speaking at lower volumes, not wearing shoes at all inside, etc.
We have a beautiful and big patio, but can’t have people over because of them. We try to comply and be thoughtful to our neighbors, but everyone has a limit.
Last week I decided it was finally time to get cable for the apartment. I did what any law abiding citizen would do, and called up my cable provider, ordered the service, and had it installed. A week later I received a call from the landlord claiming that the neighbors complained that ever since “our” cable guy came they have been without cable. The landlord midway through speaking with us must have realized that this wasn’t an issue of our causing, because he told us he needed to call the neighbors back. Sure enough I received a call back from my landlord saying that the neighbors had been stealing their cable.
If you are stealing cable, and do not inform your neighbors that you are stealing cable, and they call a cable guy it is not their fault. Do not proceed by calling a landlord to complain, as you were doing something illegal.
Difficult neighbors can make living at even the best apartment unbearable. When neighbors are making life hard, what do you do?